What To Do For A Grieving Friend

By: Schilling Funeral Home & Cremation
Monday, July 1, 2019

Funeral homes in Sterling, IL are intimidating places, and it’s hard enough to help a grieving friend without the pressure of being in a funeral home. However, it doesn’t have to be so difficult, especially if you keep these 12 tips in mind:  

  1. Don’t Avoid: It may feel easier to avoid a grieving friend, but it’s the worst thing you can do. A hug, kind word, or a supportive presence can go a long way. If you cant think of what to day, a simple “I’m sorry” is all you need.  
  2. Share: It can be helpful to hear similar bereavement stories; so don’t be afraid to share. It makes people feel better to know that others have gotten through the grief.  
  3. Don’t Talk About A Dead Pet: In that vein, do not compare their loss to your loss of a pet. It’s not comparable, and can be very insulting.  
  4. Let Them Cry: Crying is an important part of expressing grief, so never say “don’t cry.” Its ok to just be there when someone is crying, offering a hug or tissues, or even just a calming presence.  
  5. Support Past the Funeral: Grief doesn’t stop after the bereaved leave the funeral home, so your support shouldn’t either. Keep checking in in the following weeks. A phone call or a text of support is great. Don’t be offended if they don’t want to talk, as grief can make concentrating or talking difficult.  
  6. Help With Everyday Tasks: Grief is physically and mentally debilitating, so it can be hard to accomplish seemingly easy tasks like cooking or cleaning. Help out by offering to cross things off the to-do list like grocery shopping, cooking a meal, or mowing the lawn.  
  7. Provide Funeral Help: It can be hard to plan and host a funeral, and help is always welcome. Even a small thing like bringing flowers or offering to go with them to sign the death certificate is meaningful.  
  8. Let Them Bring Up Religion First: Don’t make it about religion until the bereaved do. Everyone has different beliefs, and you don’t want to accidentally offend.  
  9. Laughing is Good: Don’t be afraid of making them laugh. Offer up silly stories of your day, or even happy memories of the deceased.  
  10. Mention the Deceased: Don’t be afraid to talk about the deceased. You might make them cry, but that’s ok! It feels good to know that the deceased isn’t gone from everyone’s thoughts and memories.  
  11. Note Big Dates: Note important dates like birthdays or anniversaries and be sure to reach out around those times for extra support down the line.  
  12. Remind Them Grief Isn’t Short: Be sure to express that you understand the grieving process is lengthy, and that you will be there throughout. Bereaved can feel lonely or even abandoned after leaving the funeral home, so make sure they know you’re still there.  

Schilling Funeral Home & Cremation, located at 702 1st Ave Sterling, IL 61081, offers expert and compassionate Sterling, IL funeral home services. We are honored to give you any help or advice we can. Please give us a call at (815) 626-1131 today.  

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