How To Write and Deliver A Eulogy

By: Schilling Funeral Home & Cremation
Monday, October 7, 2019

It doesn’t matter if you have a day or two weeks to write a eulogy, or if you’re delivering it at a memorial service or at a funeral in a funeral home in Sterling, IL, eulogies are hard. These tips might make the writing and delivery process a bit easier:  

  • Keep it Brief – Although it seems tough to cram a whole life into a few minutes, the eulogy should not be longer than 5 minutes. Focus on the main parts of the deceased’s life, and be sure to write your speech down so you don’t stray off topic.  
  • Be Personal – Focus on the good and positive things in the deceased’s life, and don’t be afraid to add a bit of mild humor to keep things light. Most importantly, don’t be afraid to add a few personal stories or memories.  
  • Be Prepared – Write your eulogy before the service. That way, everything you are going to say is planned out so you don’t have to worry in the moment. Print it out on a paper so you’re not messing with a phone or tablet.  
  • Don’t Forget a Bio – While you can structure the eulogy with stories and moments, it’s easier to frame it as a short biography. Include details like place of birth, marriage, children and other big milestones to keep the story linear and easy to follow. Though these details may seem trivial, they are an important part of every eulogy.  
  • Stay Positive – Although cremations and memorials are somber, you should still remain focused on the person’s life and not their death. Avoid talking about negative moments or things that might cast a poor light on him or her, as the purpose of the eulogy is to honor the deceased.  
  • Be Yourself – You don’t have to be a professional actor or public speaker, but be aware of your delivery. Try to use a light conversational tone, and look up from the paper every few sentences to connect with the rest of the people at the service.  
  • End Positive – End your eulogy on a good note, like a fond memory or the impact the deceased had on your life. You can also finish by saying a final goodbye, or mentioning that this is exactly the way the person would want things to be. You never want to leave the funeral attendees feeling more upset than when they arrived. 

Writing and giving a eulogy doesn’t have to be stressful or incredibly hard if you are prepared. These tips and tricks are here to help make the process easier on you in your time of loss.  

If you want more tips on eulogies, or want to learn more about your options for Sterling, IL funeral homes, Schilling Funeral Home & Cremation is here to help. You can reach out to us by visiting 702 1st Ave Sterling, IL 61081, or calling (815) 626-1131. We’re happy to help in any way we can.  

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